My skin regimen

Please and blessings (as Salam alaikum)to all my readers,

So for those of you who know me personally may know that I have struggled with blemishes from chickpoc and some acne. Well as I have reached the big 30 the appearance of my skin has started to bother me. Although the blemishes where not that bad to me they where bad enough.

During my process of trying to find what works for me I have tried proactive, clean and clear, noxema and sme others. While these worked for the surface of my skin they did not work for getting to the core of my skin problem.

A few friends and mention holistic ways that worked but I could not always afford all of the products need or the results where just not taking place. So then one of my sisters in Islam said you should try retina A cream and suggested to get a prescription for it the first time before ordering it online. I did just that.

I started using retina A cream 0.025% and panoxl-8 which has 8% benzoyl peroxide acne cream wash that you can get without out a prescription on 11-11-11. I have had amazing skin results. Below I will provide pictures of the products used. check out my facebook page I will post photos of my face that you can see my new skin results.

http://www.drugstore.com/panoxyl-8-acne-creamy-wash-8-benzoyl-peroxide/qxp354523?catid=182284
http://www.biogenesis-antiaging.com/product_info.php?products_id=70

I am thinking of video blogging about this and other this on YouTube please let me know your suggestions. I am so video camera shy!

Sorry the photos are not here. I am working from myipad and I am unable to upload the photos. Checkout and subscribe https://www.facebook.com/coneise
Till next time inshallah (god willing)
Peace and blessing to you
As salam alaikum

Raawiya

Islamic Dawah for all my dear Islamic Sisters.

Dear Islamic Sisters,

Please read this as it may be useful for all our dear Islamic
Sisters----I hope so,InshaAllah.


‎                   60 Islamic Ways To Keep Your Husband's Love Forever.

1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man
doesn’t want a man for his wife. 2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If
you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day. ...3.
Smell good! 4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon
as he walks in. Give him a little mental break. 5. Don’t keep asking
him, “what are you thinking?” 6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah
ta’ala gives you something really to complain about. 7. Absolutely no
talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under
the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve
legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right
person who can give advice in either: 1. Mediate any injustice done so
any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
2. Amicable divorce 8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you
would like your husband to be kind to your own mother. 9. Learn all
the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling
your obligations, not demanding your rights 10. Race to the door when
he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him. 11.
Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it. 12.
Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about
(looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem. 13. Tell
him he’s the best husband ever. 14. Call his family often. 15. Give
him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it.
This will encourage him to do more. 16. When he’s talking about
something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make
it seem like you’re interested. 17. Encourage him to do good deeds.
18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it,
inshaAllah. 19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and
shelter. It’s a big deal. 20. If he’s angry with you and starts
yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your
fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him
your side of the story and how you want him to change something. 21.
When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This
action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and
circumstance rather than at him. 22. Remember that your husband has
feelings, so take them into consideration. 23. Let him chill with his
friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him
to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home. 24. If your husband
is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then
stop doing it. Really. 25. Learn how to tell him what you expect
without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your
feelings. 26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it. 27.
Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read
some jokes, and then tell them to him. (lol) 28. Tell him you’re the
best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know
you’re good at. 29. Learn to make his favorite dish. 30. Don’t ever,
EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they
end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the
face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and
other people also think you have a bad husband. 31. Use your time
wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take
online classes and get active in your community. This will make you
happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband. 32. Do
all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in
everything you do. 33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate
with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of
each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions
like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah
Baqarah, 2:187] 34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times.
Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet used to ask her how
strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he
would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her
saying, “Jazakallah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as
I have rejoiced in you.” 35. Have a race with your husband and let him
win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him. 36. Keep fit
and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife,
cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy. 37.
Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or
talk too loud or walk like an elephant. 38. Do not leave the house
without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge. 39.
Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always
looking fresh and crisp. 40. Don’t discuss important/controversial
matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right
discussion. 41. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. 42.
Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home
the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work. 43. Make sure
you ALWAYS have something for dinner. 44. Brush your hair, everyday.
45. Don’t forget to do laundry. 46. Surprise him with gifts. Even
necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts. 47. Listen to him. (Even
when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or
computers.) 48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his
hobbies. 49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his
money. 50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with
him. 51. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in
intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.) 52. Prepare for special evenings
with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children
permitted). 53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face
is center of attraction. 54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to
him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until
matters become worse. 55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the
bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every
prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser
devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of
Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between
spouses where Allah installs it. 56. Don’t EVER compare your husbands
to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do
that, why do you …” (thats a killer!) 57. Be happy with what you have
because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you
enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa! 58. Strive
for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s
love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And
remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire
creation will love you. 59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to
take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet
poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for
him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car
steering-wheel 60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of
the night) and ask him to pray with you.


Jazakallah, dear Islamic Sisters for taking out some of your precious
time for reading this. Wish for the best with your spouse,Ameen.

Please do remember me in your dua's to Allah Almighty Alone Only.
Jazakallah Khaira once again.

Fasting - 14th Ramadan 1432 (14th August 2011)

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 14th Ramadan 1432 (14th August 2011)

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "If somebody eats or
drinks forgetfully then he should complete his fast, for what he has eaten
or drunk, has been given to him by Allah." Narrated 'Amir bin Rabi'a, "I
saw the Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) cleaning his teeth with
Siwak while he was fasting so many times as I can't count." And narrated
Abu Huraira, "The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, 'But for my
fear that it would be hard for my followers, I would have ordered them to
clean their teeth with Siwak on every performance of ablution." The same is
narrated by Jabir and Zaid bin Khalid from the Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi
Wa Sallam) who did not differentiate between a fasting and a nonfasting
person in this respect (using Siwak).

Aisha  (Radi-Allahu 'anha) said, "The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa
Sallam) said, "It (i.e. Siwak) is a purification for the mouth and it is a
way of seeking Allah's pleasures." Ata' and Qatada said, "There is no harm
in swallowing the resultant saliva."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 154

Ma'asalaam

Fasting - 15th Ramadan 1432 (15th August 2011)

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 15th Ramadan 1432 (15th August 2011)

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

While we were sitting with the Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) a man
came and said, "O Allah's Apostle! I have been ruined." Allah's Apostle
(Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) asked what was the matter with him. He
replied "I had sexual intercourse with my wife while I was fasting."
Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) asked him, "Can you afford
to manumit a slave?" He replied in the negative. Allah's Apostle
(Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) asked him, "Can you fast for two successive
months?" He replied in the negative. The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa
Sallam) asked him, "Can you afford to feed sixty poor persons?" He replied
in the negative. The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) kept silent and
while we were in that state, a big basket full of dates was brought to the
Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam). He asked, "Where is the
questioner?" He replied, "I (am here)." The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa
Sallam) said (to him), "Take this (basket of dates) and give it in
charity." The man said, "Should I give it to a person poorer than I? By
Allah; there is no family between its (i.e. Medina's) two mountains who are
poorer than I." The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) smiled till his
pre-molar teeth became visible and then said, 'Feed your family with it."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 157


Ma'asalaam

Fasting - 16th Ramadan 1432 (16th August 2011)

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 16th Ramadan 1432 (16th August 2011)

Narrated Tawus (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

Ibn 'Abbas said, "Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) set out
from Medina to Makkah and he fasted till he reached 'Usfan, where he asked
for water and raised his hand to let the people see him, and then broke the
fast, and did not fast after that till he reached Makkah, and that happened
in Ramadan." Ibn 'Abbas used to say, "Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi
Wa Sallam) (sometimes) fasted and (sometimes) did not fast during the
journeys so whoever wished to fast could fast, and whoever wished not to
fast, could do so."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 169

Fasting - 17th Ramadan 1432 (17th August 2011)

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 17th Ramadan 1432 (17th August 2011)

Narrated Ibn Abbas (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

A man came to the Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) and said, "O
Allah's Apostle! My mother died and she ought to have fasted one month (for
her missed Ramadan). Shall I fast on her behalf?" The Prophet (Sallallahu
'Alaihi Wa Sallam) replied in the affirmative and said, "Allah's debts have
more right to be paid." In another narration a woman is reported to have
said, "My sister died..."

Narrated Ibn 'Abbas: A woman said to the Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa
Sallam) "My mother died and she had vowed to fast but she didn't fast." In
another narration Ibn 'Abbas is reported to have said, "A woman said to the
Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam), "My mother died while she ought to
have fasted for fifteen days."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 174

Ma'asalaam

What are the rights of woman after marriage?

Dear Islamic Sisters,

Assalaamu Alaiqum wa Rehmatullahi wa Barakatahu.


Please allow me to share this with you,hope none of you will be
embarrased at all to know the Truth Of Islam.

                What are the rights of woman after marriage?

If the husband calls the wife to bed, can she say no? does the husband
need the wife's consent to have Intercourse? If there is no consent,
and the wife doesn't want to, and he forces himself over her, isn't
tha...t rape?" In the name of Allah, Most Compassionate, Most
Merciful, Sayyiduna Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates
that the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said:
�When a man calls his wife for sexual intimacy and she refuses him,
thus he spends the night in anger, then the angels curse her until
morning.� (Sahih al-Bukhari & Sahih Muslim, See: Riyad al-Salihin, No.
281) Talq ibn Ali (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: �When a
man calls his wife for sexual intimacy, then she should come, even if
she is (busy) in the cooking area.� (Sunan al-Tirmizi & Sunan
al-Nasa�i) Abu Huraira (Allah be pleased with him) narrates that the
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) said: �By the
one in whose hands is my life, there is not a man who calls his wife
for sexual intimacy and she refuses him except that Allah becomes
angry with her until her husband is pleased with her.� (Sahih Muslim,
No. 1436) The above and other narrations of the beloved of Allah
(Allah bless him & give him peace) clearly signify the importance of
the wife obeying her husband in his request for sexual intimacy. It
will be a grave sin, in normal circumstances, for the wife to refuse
her husband, and even more, if this leads the husband into the
unlawful. Imam al-Nawawi (Allah have mercy on him) states in his
commentary on the Hadith of Abu Huraira stated above: �This Hadith
indicates that it is unlawful (haram) for the wife to refuse her
husband for sexual intimacy without a valid reason. Menstruation will
not be considered a valid reason, for the husband has a right to enjoy
her from above the garment (on top of cloths).� (Sharh Sahih Muslim,
P. 1084) However, this does not in any way mean that the husband may
force himself over her for sexual gratification. The Hadith mentions
that, �the husband spends the night in anger or being displeased,�
which clearly shows that he must restrain himself from forcing himself
over her. Had this not been the case, the Messenger of Allah (Allah
bless him & give him peace) would have advised the husband to gain his
right in a forceful manner. Similarly, it should be remembered here
that, the wife must obey her husband in his request for sexual
intimacy unless she has a valid reason. She must obey him as long as
she does not have to forego her own rights. As such, if the wife is
ill, fears physical harm or she is emotionally drained, etc; she will
not be obliged to comply with her husband�s request for sexual
intimacy. Rather, the husband would be required to show her
consideration. Allah Most High says: �On no soul does Allah place a
burden greater than it can bear� (al-Baqarah, 286) Many times it is
observed that the husband demands from his wife to fulfil his sexual
needs no matter what state she is in, and uses the above quoted
Hadiths to impose himself over her. If the wife is not in a state to
engage in sexual activities and has a genuine and valid reason, and
the husband forces her, then he will be sinful. Muslim husbands should
realize that their wives are also humans and not some type of machines
that can be switched on whenever they desire! Finally, these matters
should be resolved with mutual understanding, regard for one another,
love, gentleness and putting one�s spouse before one�s self. The
Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him & give him peace) has reported to
have said: �None of you can be a true believer until they love for
their brother what they love for themselves.� The importance of this
is even greater in a marital relationship. And Allah knows best.

Please do remember me in your precious dua's to Allah Almighty Alone Only.

Jazakallah khaira.

Vulgar Language

At-Tirmidhi #1975: Abdullah bin Amr said: "The Messenger of Allah SAW said: 'The best of you are those best in conduct. And the Prophet was not one who was obscene, nor one who uttered obscenities.'  At-Tirmidhi #707 Abu Huraira narrated that the Prophet SAW said: "Whoever does not leave false speech, and act according to It, then Allah is not in any need of him leaving his food and his drink." guarding the tongue at all times, especially now is of utmost importantance if we truly seek Allah's favor. For the tongue is one of the three that will lead us directly to the Hell-fire.

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 120

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 3rd Ramadan 1432 (3rd August 2011)

Narrated Sahl (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "There is a gate in
Paradise called Ar-Raiyan, and those who observe fasts will enter through
it on the Day of Resurrection and none except them will enter through it.
It will be said, 'Where are those who used to observe fasts?' They will get
up, and none except them will enter through it. After their entry the gate
will be closed and nobody will enter through it."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 120

Ma'asalaam

Imam Tahir’s 5 Simple Steps to Prepare for Ramadan

 
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Imam Tahir’s 5 Simple Steps to Prepare for Ramadan

As Ramadan approaches, it is imperative that we begin thinking about how we can benefit most from the journey ahead of us. Here are five simple ways through which we can prepare for this blessed month:

1) Intention (niyyah): Make the sincere intention that you want this Ramadan to be a sacred and special Ramadan.

2) Make a plan: Plan how you would like to spend each day this Ramadan. Postpone things that can be postponed, and focus on activities that will benefit you, insha’Allah, in the hereafter. Here are some examples: Set a target for how much Qur’an you will recite, and make a plan for when you will recite it. Set a target for how many prayers you will pray at the masjid, and make a plan for how you will reach this target.

3) Make a du’a list: Make a du’a list and include the following: a) your needs for this dunya; b) your needs for the hereafter; c) the needs of your family members and friends; d) the names of your friends and family members. A great book to have for du’as is Accepted Whispers.

4) Serve (khidmah): Go beyond just yourself and your own needs during the month of Ramadan. Before Ramadan begins, find an avenue for community service so you can serve others throughout the month.

5) Charity (sadaqah): Figure out how you can spend less on yourself so you can spend more on the needy during Ramadan. Begin calculating your assets, so that when Ramadan begins, you are ready to pay your zakat and sadaqah.

We pray to Almighty Allah that we are blessed with a fruitful and beneficial Ramadan, during which we may become closer

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 144

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 10th Ramadan 1432 (10th August 2011)

Narrated Anas (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

Zaid bin Thabit said, "We took the Suhur with the Prophet (Sallallahu
'Alaihi Wa Sallam). Then he stood for the prayer." I asked, "What was the
interval between the Suhur and the Adhan?" He replied, "The interval was
sufficient to recite fifty verses of the Quran."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 144


Ma'asalaam

How to Prepare for Ramadan By Ustadha Eiman Sidky *A Translation from Arabic

Bism Allah Al-Rahman Al-Raheem
How to Prepare for Ramadan

By Ustadha Eiman Sidky
*A Translation from Arabic
 
1.     Tawba/Repentance: Sincerely repent by remembering each sin and making tawba for it.
·       A reminder that tawba erases all that precedes it, and that Allah loves those who make tawba.
2.       Purification of the heart and entering the month to Allah with humility and broken-ness (inkisar)
3.       Pray 2 rak’at (units), asking Allah in sujood (prostration) all that you desire, for He can select you and abundantly show His generosity upon you. (Huwa yistifeeki wu yikrimik)
·       A reminder that the servant is the most near to his/her Lord is during prostration.
4.       Free yourself and the family for the time of witnessing the Hilal/Crescent, be from amongst the first who see it, and when you do see it, recite the following Dua:
“ALLAAHUMMA AHILLAHOO A'LAYNAA BIL-AMNI WAL EEMAANI WAS SALAAMATI WAL ISLAAM. RABBEE WA RABBUKALLAAHU”
“O Allah! Let this month be a period of peace, faith safety and total submission to your will. My Lord and your Lord is Allah”
5.       Purify your home from all that will displease or anger Allah (anything that contains haram/impermissibility).
6.       Return the trusts to their ownersF, and reconcile/end any quarrels.
7.       Congregate the pure and sincere intentions and prepare the duas/supplications that you will implore on Allah during Ramadan.
8.       Prepare your charity box, for Rasool Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) used to give charity abundantly during Ramadan.  Also prepare a worship/ibada timetable for yourself and the family.
9.       Seek to please and give to your family out of sheer joy as a sign of happiness with Ramadan.
10.   Prepare to be freed from the Hell-fire; however you must first free yourself from sins, small or great, such as usury, looking at haram, listening to haram, etc.
·       A reminder that the one who is freed/protected from the Hell-fire is the best of worshipers and best in manners.
11.   Talk to your children to prepare them for suhoor, for this is the time during which Al-Rahman will gaze upon His servants, and Allah and His Angels send blessings upon those who get up for suhoor.
12.   Making a plan such that if someone in the family gets lazy in a form of worship, then the rest of the family should encourage them with it.
13.   Try to prepare your food before Ramadan (store it in the freezer) so you are not burdened with the length of time to cook during Ramadan. Try to buy the Eid clothes early to be free during the last ten days for worship and not shopping. Do not forget to revive the night before Eid in worship for Allah frees from the Hell-fire servants as many as those He freed one each day from the beginning to the end of the month of Ramadan. Go to the Masjid/Mosque during the night before Eid using one route and returning from another route.
 
Dua/Supplication When Ramadan Enters:
“Allahumma sallimni bi Ramadan wa sallim Ramadan wa sallimhu minni mutaqabbala”

“Oh Allah! Protect and give me peace with Ramadan, and protect and give peace to Ramadan, and protect and give peace to Ramdan and accept it from me”

This is not sunnah or ahadith. Just things that you can do during the month of Ramadan.


 

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 127

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "Whoever does not give up
forged speech and evil actions, Allah is not in need of his leaving his
food and drink (i.e. Allah will not accept his fasting.)"

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 127

Imam Tahir’s 5 Simple Steps to Prepare for Ramadan

Imam Tahir’s 5 Simple Steps to Prepare for Ramadan

As Ramadan approaches, it is imperative that we begin thinking about how we can benefit most from the journey ahead of us. Here are five simple ways through which we can prepare for this blessed month:

1) Intention (niyyah): Make the sincere intention that you want this Ramadan to be a sacred and special Ramadan.

2) Make a plan: Plan how you would like to spend each day this Ramadan. Postpone things that can be postponed, and focus on activities that will benefit you, insha’Allah, in the hereafter. Here are some examples: Set a target for how much Qur’an you will recite, and make a plan for when you will recite it. Set a target for how many prayers you will pray at the masjid, and make a plan for how you will reach this target.

3) Make a du’a list: Make a du’a list and include the following: a) your needs for this dunya; b) your needs for the hereafter; c) the needs of your family members and friends; d) the names of your friends and family members. A great book to have for du’as is Accepted Whispers.

4) Serve (khidmah): Go beyond just yourself and your own needs during the month of Ramadan. Before Ramadan begins, find an avenue for community service so you can serve others throughout the month.

5) Charity (sadaqah): Figure out how you can spend less on yourself so you can spend more on the needy during Ramadan. Begin calculating your assets, so that when Ramadan begins, you are ready to pay your zakat and sadaqah.

We pray to Almighty Allah that we are blessed with a fruitful and beneficial Ramadan, during which we may become closer to Allah. Ameen.

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 121

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Fasting - 4th Ramadan 1432 (4th August 2011)

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said, "Whoever gives two
kinds (of things or property) in charity for Allah's Cause, will be called
from the gates of Paradise and will be addressed, 'O slaves of Allah! Here
is prosperity.' So, whoever was amongst the people who used to offer their
prayers, will be called from the gate of the prayer; and whoever was
amongst the people who used to participate in Jihad, will be called from
the gate of Jihad; and whoever was amongst those who used to observe fasts,
will be called from the gate of Ar-Raiyan; whoever was amongst those who
used to give in charity, will be called from the gate of charity." Abu Bakr
said, "Let my parents be sacrificed for you, O Allah's Apostle! No distress
or need will befall him who will be called from those gates. Will there be
any one who will be called from all these gates?" The Prophet (Sallallahu
'Alaihi Wa Sallam) replied, "Yes, and I hope you will be one of them."

Bukhari Vol. 3 : No. 121


Ma'asalaam

Must Read It's Awesome! Based on Tirmidhi 1295& Ibn Majah 3381,Sahih by Albani]

MUST READ!!!
""""" It's Awesome """"
Asslam o Alikum! The Prophet (Peace Be Upon Him) cursed 10 kinds of
people associated with alcoholic beverages 1.Those who make it
themselves 2.Those who help to make it 3.Those who use it 4.Those who
carry it 5.Those to whom it is carried 6.Those who give it to others
7.Those who sell it 8.Those who use the money made from it 9.Those who
purchase it 10.Those from whom it is purchased [Based on Tirmidhi
1295& Ibn Majah 3381,Sahih by Albani]



May Allah Almighty Alone Only protect us from such kind of sins,Ameen.

About Salafiyyah What Is Salafiyyah? * Imaam Ahmad: (4/426). Al-Bukhaaree: (2651). Muslim: (2535).

About Salafiyyah What Is Salafiyyah?Question:

What is As-Salafiyyah and what is your opinion regarding it?
Answer:

All praise is due to Allaah alone, and peace and blessings be upon the
Messenger, his family and his Companions.

To proceed:

"As-Salafiyyah" is an attachment or affiliation to the 'Salaf'. And
"The Salaf" are the Companions of the Messenger of Allaah (salallaahu
'alaihi wassallam) and the Imaams of guidance (may Allaah be pleased
with them) from the first three generations, those whose goodness
Allaah's Messenger (salallaahu 'alaihi wasallam) bore witness to in
his statement:

"The best of mankind is my generation, then those who follow them,
then those who follow them. Then there will come people where bearing
witness of one of them will precede his taking an oath and his taking
an oath will be his bearing witness."

[Reported by Imaam Ahmad ibn Hanbal in the 'Musnad', 'Al-Bukhaaree',
and Muslim]*

And "The Salafiyyoon [or Salafees]" is the plural of "Salafi", an
attachment or affiliation to the Salaf, and its meaning has already
preceded above - and they are those who traverse upon the Methodology
(Manhaj) of the Salaf in following the Book of Allaah and the Sunnah
[of the Messenger of Allaah], and inviting to them, and acting upon
them, and they are, due to this, Ahlus-Sunnah wal-Jamaa'ah.

* Imaam Ahmad: (4/426). Al-Bukhaaree: (2651). Muslim: (2535).

Ramadan Mubarak!

Asalamu Alaykum!

Ramadan will start on Monday August 1st, 2011

Taraweeh Prayers will start Sunday July 31st @ 9:45pm Inshallah

Ramadan Mubarak!

The official decision and announcement of the High Judiciary Council (HJC) of Saudi Arabia that since the moon of Ramadhaan was not sighted this evening, here in Saudi Arabia, we shall be completing thirty (30) days of Sha'baan (1432 A.H.), in accordance with the hadeeth of the Messenger of Allaah (sal-Allaahu `alayhe wa sallam):

((Fast when you see the crescent. If it is obscured to you, then complete thirty days of Sha'baan. And break your fast when you see the crescent. If it is obscured to you then fast thirty days)), [transmitted by al-Bukhaaree and Muslim].

"O you who believe, fasting has been prescribed upon you as it was
prescribed upon those before you, so that you may attain
Taqwaa(piety and righteousness)" [Sura al-Baqarah 2:183]

Cleanliness is Part of Our Way of Life, Deen

Cleanliness is Part of Our Way of Life, Deen


  Written By Greg (Juraij) Horton from FRM News
As I walked into the Muslim facility/establishment I notice a man cleaning. From the looks of him I was pretty sure he wasn’t Muslim, so I decided to take the opportunity to approach him and try, with the help of Allah, to talk with him about Islam and possibly see what he knows. He was from a Hispanic background and Al Hamdu’lillah I am fluent in Spanish so I began to have dialog with him. I asked him what he knew about Islam and further began to explain the oneness of Allah and the pillars of Islam.

After a short time he asked me a question: “This facility/establishment is a Muslim facility, right?” I paused for a second thinking I would have hoped he knew that from appearance of brothers and sisters throughout, but I simply answered his question with, “yes it is.” Then he said, “Then why would I want to become Muslim?” After hearing him say that I felt insulted and anger began to boil inside, but then he continued:“We clean seven buildings a day and among all of the building this is the most disgusting and dirtiest.” He went on to explain to me about all of the filth and mess he has to clean from the various areas to the bathrooms. After he finished I told him that uncleanness is not Islamic, and I ended our conversation with explaining the beauties of Islam and the etiquette of being a Muslim.

This story was relayed to me from a fellow Muslim brother. Unfortunately I’m sure many of us can talk about similar stories like this where our behavior as Muslims have quite frankly brought shame to the beautiful deen of al-Islam. Why am I telling this story and what can we learn from it?

… Firstly our actions that we do everyday, small or big, can affect not just a person’s view of us, but most importantly their view of our beautiful deen, the deen of Allah … Islam.

At the end of the day what we do will be attributed not only to us as individuals, but to Islam. During the time of the Prophet (saw) and the suhaba’s --- their actions, behavior and conduct --- were just as much apart of their daw’ah to the people as the speech that came out of their mouths.

… Secondly, cleanliness is threaded within our deen and if we don’t implement it in our lives we could, as a result, not practice our deen fully or correctly.

The Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) said:
Cleanliness is half of faith and al-Hamdu’llilah (praise be to Allah) fills the scale, and Subhan Allah (Glory be to Allah) and al-Hamdu’lillah (praise be to Allah) fills up what is between the heavens and the earth; and prayer is a light; and charity is proof (of one's faith); and endurance is a brightness; and the Holy Qur'an is a proof on your behalf or against you. All men go out early in the morning and sell themselves, thereby setting themselves free or destroying themselves. (Sahih Muslim).

Are we neglecting half of our faith? Let us first start with ourselves, family and children. We should practice the etiquette of cleanliness --- not just in our homes, but while in the public.

… Lastly, don’t be the cause of misguidance for someone. Whether we are aware of it or not our actions can ultimately help a person decided to explore and/or accept Islam, or turn them away and want nothing to do with Islam. Of course this is all by the will of Allah (swt).

Actions speak louder than words
We can talk day and night and debate with others about the beauties of Islam, but if our actions, lives, behaviors are opposite of these words, what message are we delivering to our family, neighbors and community? I remind myself and my fellow Brothers and Sisters in Islam, for the sake of Allah. May Allah make us among those that hear, obey, and most importantly… implement.



For clarification and/or further insight, you may contact Greg Horton at: editor@frmnews.net

Ramadan is the Month!

AS SALAM-O-ALAYKUM WA RAHMATULLAHI WA BARAKATUHU...

In Qur'an it is stated 'Ramadan is the month in which was sent down
the Qur'an as a guide to mankind, also Clear Signs for guidance and
judgment between right and wrong." (Suratul Baqara, 2:185).

The Holy Prophet (SAW) said 'O People! The month of Allah (SWT) has
come with His mercies... and blessings. This is the month that is the
best of all months in the eyes of Allah (SWT). Its days are the best
of days, its nights are the best of nights, its hours are the best of
hours'.

Pray to ALLAH that this month reaches you while you are in the best of
health and safety so that you can fast and do all your acts of
devotion with ease and enthusiasm.

Be thankful to ALLAH and show happiness. The companions of the Prophet
(S.A.W) used to greet each other on the beginning of Ramadan.

Make a good plan for the whole month about how you are going to
organize your days and evenings during Ramadan.
schedules for your work so that you can pray on time, read the Quran
and take Sahur (the meal consumed early in early morning before fajr
prayer) and Iftar (breaking the fast at sunset, Maghreb prayer) on
time.

Fasting is very important so that you do not do anything that will
spoil your fasts. Learn the way of Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) in fasting.

The Prophet Muhammad(S.A.W) said:

"Whosoever does not give up bad words and bad deeds, Allah has no need
in that he leaves his food and his drink." (Al-Bukhari)

The month of Ramadan is the month of kindness, charity and
generosity.Be more generous and help the poor and needy.

The Prophet – peace be upon him - was the most generous person, but in
Ramadan he used to be more generous when Gabriel used to meet him.
Gabriel used to see him during Ramadan every night and he used to read
the Quran with him. The Prophet –peace be upon him - was then more
generous with goodness than the blowing wind." (Al-Bukhari)


Allah the Almighty shows His kindness to those who remember Him.
May Allah (SWT) give us the strength to gain the Taqwa,patience,
self-assurance and self-control, wealth of blessings from this holy
month of Ramadan. Amin.

Jazakallah kherin

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 745

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Dress - 29th Sha'aban 1432 (30th July 2011)

Narrated 'Aisha (Radi-Allahu 'anha):

The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) used to like starting from the
right in performing ablution, combing his hair and putting on his shoes.

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 745


Ma'asalaam

Computer Virus

COMPUTER SHORTCUTS-

’Enter’ the masjid,
‘Forward’ your salaat,
‘Download’ Quran,
‘Firewall’ your iman,
‘Backspace’ from shaitan,
‘Bookmark’ to ALLAH SWT,
’Delete’ ALLAH’s enemies,
‘Copy paste’ from the Al-Qur’an and Sunnah,
‘Help’ your muslim brothers n sisters,
‘File’ ur amal,
‘Edit’ ur akhlaq
‘View’ your good and bad deeds,
‘Search’ the straight and right path,
~~InshaAllah you will never get a virus

A prayer to my Allah

Wây Ôf Trûth
Oh Allah!
I Am Not Weak.
_
Oh Allah!
I Am Not Weak.
_
I have the power to persuade,
I have the power to motivate,
_
I have the power to stand,
I have the power to speak,
_
Why then my mind says.
I Am So Weak?
_
Oh Allah, Help me please!
Oh Allah, Help me please!
_
Gone Are The Days,
Days In Which I Took A Step,
_
Step to Stop Evil,
From taking Over A Mind,
_
In those days,
I used to laugh,
I used to tease,
I used to weep,
Yet, wonderful did they stayed.
_
Why then today?
Oh Allah, why then today?
_
When a word spoken to me linking to that part of my life makes me to
weep and cry.
_
Even today I have the power to stand and speak.
_
The power YOU gave to me.
The wisdom YOU Provided Me With.
_
Unknown to all.
But known to YOU and Me.
_
I don't know where my life will take me?
I m thinking in what a web i m trapped in.
Sometimes i see a dark incident that future holds that will distroy everything..
Sometimes I say to 'self'- " Trust Allah and leave everything"
_
Oh Allah, YOU Gave Power to stand,
When I Was About To Fall..

Oh Allah, YOU Gave Me Console,
When I Was In Grief and Sorrow.

Oh Allah, YOU showed me the truth,
When my emotiôns were played with'..

Oh Allah, YOU saw my tears,
When I used to weep..

Oh Allah, today I need YOU again,
Once Again..

Help me to stand.
Help me to be strong.
Help me to face the reality.
Face the Reality and false,
Oh Allah, Help me..

Oh ALLAH, Help me..
To Decide..
What is right and wrong?

Don't let me break..
Don't let me go away..

Oh Allah...I Need You:'-(



Author anonymous

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 718

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Dress - 27th Sha'aban 1432 (28th July 2011)

Narrated Aba 'Uthman An-Nahdi (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

While we were with 'Utba bin Farqad at Adharbijan, there came 'Umar's
letter indicating that Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) had
forbidden the use of silk except this much, then he pointed with his index
and middle fingers. To our knowledge, by that he meant embroidery.

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 718

Ramadan days away inshallah

 Assalamu-Alaikum and Greetings  !

This morning I received this email and I thought I would share it with my brothers and sisters. Please take a moment and check in to thus further. This site mashallah has a lot of useful knowledge and information to share.

I pray that we all have a blessed Ramadan and that our faith, and that our knowledge in Allah swt and the prophet peace and blessing be upon him be increased. Ameen!
 
 
The blessed month of Ramadan is almost here with its opportunities for those who are willing and eager to make use of those opportunities. However, for those of us who are planning to focus only on the physical aspects of fasting and praying, we need to pause and focus on the spiritual aspects instead, without which we risk losing earning any rewards whatsoever.
 
The article below discusses this topic in further detail. Even if you have heard these messages before, you can always pick up some nuggets of wisdom or knowledge. So, ensure that you do take a few minutes to read the article and share it with those who can benefit from it.

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Narrated Abdullah (Radi-Allahu 'anhu): Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 696

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Dress - 26th Sha'aban 1432 (27th July 2011)

Narrated Abdullah (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

A man got up and said, "O Allah's Apostle! What do you order us to wear
when we assume the state of Ihram?" The Prophet (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa
Sallam) replied, "Do not wear shirts, trousers, turbans, hooded cloaks or
Khuffs, but if a man has no sandals, he can wear Khuffs after cutting them
short below the ankles; and do not wear clothes touched with (perfumes) of
saffron or wars."

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 696

Ma'asalaam

A Quick preparation tips for RAMADAN *****

             

Asalaamu Alaikum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatu,

Brothers and Sisters Ramadan is only few days away. Are we prepared?
We know from Sunnah that the Sahbah would prepare 6 months before
Ramadan. InshaAllah lets remind each other about this blessed month of
Ramadan.

A lot of us yearn to prepare for Ramadan, but we have no idea how to
start. Below are a few tips to insha’Allah help prepare our minds and
hearts for this upcoming Month of Mercy.

1. Making the Intention

Simple to do and has a powerful impact. Maybe you want to prepare for
Ramadan, but between school, work, family, and any other activities,
you just have no idea how to fit in ‘Preparing for Ramadan’ time.
Instead of making ‘preparing for Ramadan’ something separate from your
daily activities, MAKE your daily activities a means of preparation
for Ramadan.

For example, perhaps your mom asked you to pick up your brother from
school on the day you finally had time to read a few extra pages of
Qur’an. Instead of feeling upset and feeling like you have lost a
great preparation for Ramadan opportunity, make the intention that you
are picking up your brother to please Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala and
prepare for Ramadan by obeying your mother, helping your family
members, building ties of kinship… and the list continues.

The point is that preparing for Ramadan does not have to be some
magnificent, enormous, extra-special thing that needs to be done at a
certain time of the day. Many of your daily actions can be turned into
Ramadan preparation actions with a sincere intention, insha’Allah.

2. Do these easy-to-reap-reward actions:

Asking Allah to forgive your brothers and sisters. “Whoever seeks
forgiveness for believing men and believing woman, Allah will write
for him a good deed for each believing man and believing woman.”
[at-Tabarani, classed as hasan by al-Albani]
It was narrated that Abu Hurayrah (r.a) said “The Messenger of Allah
(sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam) said: ‘Whoever says subhanAllah wa bi
hamdih (praise and glory be to Allah) 100 times, morning and evening,
his sins will be erased even if they are like the foam on the sea.”
Narrated by al-Bukhari, 6042; Muslim 2691

If a person says “SubhanAllah” (glory be to Allah) 100 times, a
thousand good deeds are recorded for him and a thousand bad deeds are
wiped away. Narrated by Muslim 2073

Remember Allah when you go shopping : “Whoever enters a market and
says: ‘Laa ilaha illallah wahdahu la shareeka lah, lahul mulku wa
lahul hamdu yuhyi wa yumeetu wa huwa hayyun laa yamoot, bi yadihil
khair, wa huwa ‘ala kulli shayin qadeer’[there is nothing worthy of
worship except Allah, alone without partner, to Him belongs dominion
and praise, He causes life and death and He is the Living and does not
die. In His Hand is all the good, and He is over all things
competent]Allah will write for him/her a million good deeds and erase
a million bad deeds and raise him a million levels.” [at-Tirmidhi,
classed as hasan by al-Albani]

3. Up your worship
V
To help condition your heart for this blessed month, intensify your
worship before Ramadan begins. Just a small, consistent amount is
enough. The Prophet, sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam told us:
“The deeds most loved by Allah are those done regularly, even if they
are small.”

For example, if I always pray 2 rakats of sunnah after ishaa, from
this day until Ramadan begins- and even through Ramadan, let me make
the intention that I will now pray 2 extra rakats of sunnah after
ishaa. And every time I pray these extra 2 rakats, which are more than
what I normally pray, let me remember that I am doing these with the
intention of asking Allah to help me be prepared to strive and exert
my utmost effort during Ramadan.

4. Make a duaa list today

This is THE MONTH to ask for EVERYTHING, both related to this life and
the Next. Let us not wait until the last 10 nights to make special
duaas, and then once Eid passes realize that we had completely
forgotten about fifty other things we needed to make duaa for. Let us
start making our lists now, and add to it as more things come our way.
Insha’Allah this should help us remember to make constant duaa in this
month where duaa is accepted, and help our hearts pour out to the One
Who can make those duaas happen, subhanahu wa ta’ala.

5. Write out your objectives for Ramadan

Praying all of your fard prayers? Praying all of your sunnahs? Reading
the entire Qur’an? Giving charity a day? Making itikaaf in the masjid?
Leaving one serious sin that you’ve been trying to get away from for
some time now? Sincerely turning completely back to Allah?

Write out a list, put them somewhere you will see them, and make duaa
for your success in fulfilling these objectives.

6. Make a plan!
Look at your objectives, and try to make a plan on how to actualize
those objectives in this month.
For example, perhaps you are really struggling to pray your sunnah
prayers. In this month, realize the enormity of the ajr of praying the
sunnah prayers… think that perhaps these sunnahs will be the deeds
that will be so heavy on your scale of good deeds when you are intense
need of them- on yowm al qiyamah (day of judgement). Therefore, fight
to keep doing them all throughout Ramadan. If you can’t pray your 2
rakats after dhur right away, make sure to do them as soon as you get
a chance.

Thus, your plan might look something like this:
Objective: Pray all of my fard prayers.
Method: Envision myself on the day of judgment seeing the insha’Allah
weight of praying my sunnah consistently during this month. Make sure
to pray sunnah salah immediately after salah. If I cannot, do it as
soon as the opportunity arises… don’t let myself put it off!

Another example is that of finishing the Qur’an [with Understanding]:
Objective: Finishing the entire Qur’an in this month.
Method: Read 4 pages of the Qur’an after every salah. Make sure you
understand it. 5 prayers X 4 pages = 20 pages. 20 pages= about 1 juz.
1 juz X 30= the entire Qur’an.

——-
So many Muslims have passed away since last month. So many people have
not made it to Ramadan this year. Last year was their very last
Ramadan. Will you make it to this Ramadan? Will this be your last
Ramadan?

Aim to strive in this Ramadan. With a very small amount of effort,
such as just making a small intention, or adding a few extra acts of
worship, we pray that Allah will help our hearts soften and honor us
with making it easy to turn to Him and open up to Him.

May Allah make us of the successful in Ramadan, and make it easy for
us to turn to Him completely and perpetually. Ameen.

Islamic Knowledge of the Day: Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 679

Bismillah Walhamdulillah Was Salaatu Was Salaam 'ala Rasulillah

As-Salaam Alaikum Wa-Rahmatullahi Wa-Barakatuhu

Dress - 23rd Sha'aban 1432 (24th July 2011)

Narrated Abu Huraira (Radi-Allahu 'anhu):

Allah's Apostle (Sallallahu 'Alaihi Wa Sallam) said "Allah will not look,
on the Day of Resurrection, at a person who drags his Izar (behind him) out
of pride and arrogance."

Bukhari Vol. 7 : No. 679

How much do you really care about what others say?

Assalaamu Alaiqum wa Rehmatullahu wa Barakatahu.

I just wanted to say please take notice of the admonition.

"Never tell your problems to anyone...20% don't care and the other 80%
are glad you have them. Life is a test so have patience only tell your
problems to your creator Allah (swt). Keep Allah in mind and you will
find Him in front of you. Get acquainted with Allah in times of ease
and He will know you in days of distress. Know that victory comes with
patience, relief follows distress…ease follows hardship."

This statement is by no means ahadith. I'm just simply stating never tell your problems to anyone that you do not fully trust.

Jazakallah Khaira.

A woman in HIJAB (Veil) is like a pearl in shell:

A woman in HIJAB (Veil) is like a pearl in shell:

Once Flower met a Pearl

Flower: "Our family is large; roses and daisies are members of the
family. There are many having distinctive scent, appearance etc.
Suddenly, a tinge of distress appeared on flower.

Pearl: "Nothing for sorrow in your talk, then why are depressed?"
Flower:" Human deals with us carelessly; not grow us for our sake but
to get pleasure from our fragrance and beautiful appearance, and throw
us on the street/garbage after using us. The flower sighed and said
"Tell to me about your life! How do you feel it? You are buried in the
bottom of the sea."

Pearl: "Although I have none of your distinctive colors/scents, humans
think I'm precious. They do the impossible to procure me. I live in a
thick shell isolated in the dark seas. However, I'm happy and proud to
be in safe zone far from wanton and mischievous hands and still the
humans consider me highly valuable."

Think what the Flower and the Pearl symbolize?

The Flower is the unveiled woman (who shows her charms) Without Hijab
&
The Pearl is the veiled woman (who conceals her beauties) Wearing Hijab

~~* 60 WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND~~*

Okay sister here it is hot off the press. Behind ever man is a good a woman. Inshallah tomorrow will be easier than today.

Dear Islamic Sisters,


~~* 60 WAYS TO KEEP THE LOVE OF YOUR HUSBAND~~*

1-Behave like a female i.e.all tenderness of a female -a man does not
want a man for his wife.!!

2-Dress pleasantly .If you are a home maker ,do not say in your
sleeping suit all day.

3-Smell good!

4-Do not lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks
in.Give him a little metal break.

5- Do not keep asking him''WHAT ARE YOU THINKING''??

6-Stop nagging non-stop before Allah gives you something really complain about .

7-Absolutely no talking about spousal problems to anyone you meet ,not
even under pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve
legitimate marital issues ,then go seek counseling with the right
person who can give you advice in either:

(I).Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the
couple can reunite in harmony ,or

(II) Amicable divorce.

8-Be kind to your mother -in-law the same way you would like your
husband to be kind to your own mother.

9-Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam .Focus
on the fulfilling your obligations not demanding your rights.

10- Race to the door when he comes home,as if you were waiting for him
.Smile and hug him(when u r alone)

11- Keep your house clean ,at least to the level that he wants it.

12- Compliment him on the things you know he's not so confident
about(looks ,intelligence ,etc) This will build self esteem.

13- Call his family often

14- Tell him he's the best husband ever .

15 Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he
does it.This will encourage him to do more.

16-When he 's talking something boring,listen ,and nod your head .Even
ask question to make it seem like you are interested.

17-Encourage him to do good deeds.

18- If he is in a bad mood ,give him some space .He will get over
it,insha Allah .

19-Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter.It's a big deal

20-If he is angry with you and start yelling ,let him yell it out
while you are quiet .You will see your fight will end a lot faster
.Then when he's calm ,you can tell him your side of the story and how
you want him to change something.

21- When you are mad at him,do not say''YOU MAKE ME FURIOUS ''rather
''THIS ACTION MAKES ME UPSET''.Direct your anger to the action and
circumstances rather than at him.

22-Remember that your husband has feeling ,so take them into consideration.

23- Let him chill with his friends without guilt ,especially if they
are good guys.Encourage him to go out ,so he does not feel ''cooped
up''at home.

24-If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can
control it) then stop dong it.Really

25-Learn how to tell him what you except without him having guess all
the time.Learn to communicate your feelings.

26-Do not get mad over small things.It's not worth it.

27-Make jokes.If you are not naturally funny ,go on internet and read
some jokes and the tell him.

28-Tell him you're best wife ever compliment yourself on certain
things you know you are good at.

29- Learn to make his favorite dish.

30- ''DO NOT EVER ,EVER TALK BAD ABOUT HIM'' with friends or family
unnecessarily.If they end up agreeing with you ,you will see that it
hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have
a bad husband-and other people also think you have bad husband .

31-Use your time wisely and get things accomplished .If you are a home
maker ,take online classes and get in your community .This will make
you happy and secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

32-Do all above fee SABEELILLAH and you will see Allah put BARAKAH in
everything you do.

33- Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with
each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or
not to do.Do NOT give commands like he's your servant.''THEY ARE
GARMENTS TO EACH OTHER''[Surah -Baqarah 2;187]

34-Tell your husband you love him,many times. Aisha narrated that the
Prophet used to ask her how strong her love for him,she said like ''a
knot'' .And next time he would ask her.''How is that knot?'' He also
used to reply her saying''Jazakallah .,O Aishah ,wallahi you have
rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.''

35- Have a race with your husband and let him win,even if you are much
fitter and stronger than him.

36-Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain strong
mother,wife,cook and housekeeper ,INSHA ALLAH YOU WILL NOT GET FAT AND
FRUMPY''

37-Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whime ,do not laugh
or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

38-Do not leave the house without permission and certainly not without
his knowledge.

39- Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always
looking fresh and crisp.

40- Do not discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is
tired or sleepy .Find right time for right discussion.

41-The way to man's heart is through his stomach lol

42- Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing
home the''dough'' .It makes it easier for him to go work.

43- Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

44- Brush you hair, everyday and your teeth too.

45- Do not forget to do laundry.

46- Surprise him with gifts .Even necessities ,such as shoes ,can be gifts.

47-Listen to him .(Even when he talks about extremely boring things
like basketball or computers)

48- Try( hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.

49- Try not to go shopping too much...and spend all his money.

50- Look attractive and be seductive towards him .Flirt with him.

51- Learn tricks and''techniques'' to please your husband in
intimacy.(Of course goes both ways)

52- Prepare for special evening with him with special dinner and
exclusive time .

53- Take care of your skin,especially your face.The face is center of
attraction.

54- If you not satisfied intimately talk to him and tell him .Help him
or provide resources,do not wait until matters become worse.
55- Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and
love between the two of you,every day,every prayer.Ask him to protect
that bond from shaytaan .When a lesser devil destroys the love between
spouses ,he is the most beloved of shaytaan .Nothing works like the
dua and love exists between spouses where Allah installs it.

56- Do not EVER compare you husbands to other husbands! For example do
not say''WELL HER HUSBAND DOES NOT DO THAT WHAT DO YOU...''(thats
killer)

57- Be happy with that you have because no one is perfect .If you want
perfection wait until you enter jannah together insha Allah -and of
course vice versa!!


58-Strive for Allah 's love first and foremost ! if all wives try to
seek Allah's love and pleasure surely they can keep their husbands
love too.And remember -if Allah loves you ,the angels will love you
and entire creation will love you .

59- If you pack lunch for your husband to take to work ,from time to
time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem .If he does not take a
lunch ,leave the note somewhere else for him to find ,like in his
briefcase .or wallet or on the care steering wheel.

60-Wake up for Qiyam ul- Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask
him to pray with you..

HOPE YOU LIKE IT

MAY ALLAH PRESERVE ALL OUR MARRIAGES AND HELP US UNDERSTAND AND
IMPLEMENT THEM IN AND WITH THE BEST MANNER
Ameen!!!

JAZAKALLAH.

Be A Man Respect Women

Today I was checking my email and a friend of mine sent this to me. May Allah reward my friend who shared this with me. Lately I have been doing some searching within myself and my relationship with Allah swt. Subphoneallah, subphoneallah subphoneallah, allahualim, Allahu akbak.

May allah bless us all with me who respect women and who fear Allah swt. Ameen!


Be A Man Respect Women


The Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said, "Fear Allah in
respect of women." And: "The best of you are they who behave best to
their wives."

The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallau Alaihi Wasallam) said, "A Muslim must
not hate his wife, and if he be displeased with one bad quality in
her, let him be pleased with one that is good."

The Prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "The more
civil and kind a Muslim is to his wife, the more perfect in faith he
is."

Once Mu'awiyah asked the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wcs), "What are
the rights that a wife has over her husband?" The Prophet replied, "
Feed her when you take your food, give her clothes to wear when you
wear clothes, refrain from giving her a slap on the face or abusing
her, and do not separate from your wife, except within the house."

May Allah forgive me for any errors on my part, Ameen!

Jazakallah Kherin

Long time not talk

Salaam,

Long time no talk.

Well since I wrote last I have had many many experiences positive and negative. But allahu alim (Allah know s best) and I have learned a lot.

For starters two of the sisters and myself have launched our website www.muslimahconnection.co  Please come by the site and let us know what you think.

For those of you that may remember I have been working learning the( 99 names of Allah) Asmaul Husan by Ghafur, ‘Afw, Zhahir, Batin,99 Kareem, Mujeeb, Samad, Tawwab, 99 along with the meanings and  the ayahs that the names reference in the Quran and Sunnah.  Below I have attached some valuable information to help you with learning the names of Allah.  Also if you have an account with itunes you should look up or search 99names of Allah there is a sister on there that gives lectures on there regarding this according to Quran and sunnah.  Mashallah may Allah reward this sister and any of us who learn these names for the sake of Allah.  Please visit my facebook page or contact me at raawiya.clark@gmail.com for the PDF version of the names inshallah.


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http://theonlyquran.com/99names.php?nameid=2


As salaam alaikum

May's happy hair growing

Mays happy hair growing!!

I know it has been a while since I have give a life story updateor a hair update. Inshallah I will get better with this over time. So since I last wrote in February my hair has grown about one inch, I have dyed my hair back to my favorite color and I have trimmed my ends. Sisters I was so worried and scared to do this cause as you know my hair is in transition. I am so glad though that all of the relaxer is out of my hair 100% and so so healthy and mashallah growing at a good steady pace. Here is what I am using currently:

Kera daily hair dress purchased from Hunters beauty supply
Knot today kinky curly leave-in conditioner
Knot today styling spritz


I am switching my hair washing products to tresmae in the black bold. I leave an update later this week or today with which exactly.

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Blizzard Like Conditions

Good Morning Readers,

Today is a very cold day.  I am really bummed that I was unable to attend my Arabic classes, inshallah maybe another day this week..

I have been real busy over the last few weeks so I would like to just take a moment to give everyone an overall up date.  Starting with my hair last week I went to get it trimmed and the sister who did my hair is also natural which I was very happy about said that my hair over all is doing really well, however I still have some breakage that is getting better.   So I have a treatment and sat under the dryer a bit.  I was really scared about this as I told the sister because my hair as not had any heat since September.  It has been a week later and I believe that my hair has still come along way.  Inshallah when I take my hair down I will do pictures and a length check.

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DTSSBC The importance of seeking knowledge for women

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّرِييَ آهَ ىٌُاْ اتَّقُىاْ اللّهَ حَقَّ تُقَاتِهِ وَلاَ تَوُىتُيَّ إِلاَّ وَأَ تًُن هُّسِلِوُىىَ
O you who believe! Fear Allâh as He should be feared.

(by doing all that He has ordered and by abstaining from all that he has forbidden)

[Obey Him, be thankful to Him, and remember Him always], and die not except in a state of Islâm 

(as Muslims) with complete submission to Allâh.

[Al-Imraan : 102]

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

الحمد الله ربَّ العالمين، وصلى الله وسلم على نبيه محمد و على آله وسلم تسليمًا كثيرًا مزيدًا.
أما بعد

The importance of seeking knowledge for women.

And the statement of the Messenger صلى الله عليه و سلم: ‘Women are the twin halves of men.’

Section: The obligation of seeking knowledge.

(Qur’an, Ta-Ha 20:114):“And say: My Lord increase me in knowledge.”
(Qur’an, Muhammad 47:19): ‘So know that there is no god save Allah, ask forgiveness for your sins and for the believing men and the believing women. Allah knows well your moving and your place of rest.’
On the authority of Anas Ibn Malik the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: Seeking knowledge is obligatory upon every Muslim.
Shaikh Muhammad Ibn Abdul Wahhab At Tamimi said:
Know, may Allah have mercy upon you that it is compulsory upon every Muslim to know these four issues.
1. العلم Al ‘Ilm: “Firstly, the Knowledge.”
2. العمل به Al ‘Amalu Bihi: “and the actions (working) by it.”
3. الدعوة إليه Ad Da’watu Ilaihi: “Calling to it.”
4. الصبرعلى الأذى فيه As Sabru ‘Alaal Adhaa Feehi: “and to have patience with the hardships that come along that path (in the way of da’wah).”

Section: The virtues of seeking knowledge.

(Qur’an, Al-’Imran 3:18): ‘There is no one worthy of worship but He: That is the witness of Allah, His angels and those endowed with knowledge, Standing firm in Justice (or maintaining His Creation in Justice). There is no god but He, the Exalted in power, the Wise.’
(Qur’an, Al Zumar 39:9): ‘Are those who have knowledge the same as those who don’t have knowledge’.
(Qur’an, Al-Mujadilah 58:11):’Allah will raise up, to (suitable) ranks and (degrees), those of you who believe and who have been granted knowledge. And Allah is well-acquainted with all you do.’
(Qur’an, Fatir 35:28):“It is only those who have knowledge among His servants that fear Allah.”
Meaning: Those who have knowledge of the Book and the Sunnah and act upon this seeking the face of Allah.
It is reported in Saheeh Al Bukhari on the Authority of Mu’aawyah that he heard the Prophetصلى الله عليه و سلم say: ‘Whomsoever Allah wants good for he makes him understand the religion …’.
And narrated in Saheeh Muslim on the Authority of Abi Hurairah, the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid: ‘Whomsoever proceeds upon the road to seek knowledge Allah will make it easy upon him the road to enter Jannah.’
And Tirmidhi narrated in the Authority of Abi ‘Umamah that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said:‘The preference of a scholar over a worshipper is like the preference of myself over all of you.’
It is clear from these verses of the Qur’an and these Ahadeeth of the Messenger صلى الله عليه و سلم that a woman does not become one preferred by Allah because she has beauty, wealth or status. Rather, the sign that Allah prefers her over others is understanding and implementation of the religion of Islam. And knowledge of Islam is that which cleanses the heart, makes a person thread upon the road of guidance, raises the person in levels and has the person die upon a state which Allah is pleased with. However, ignorance of the religion with all the beauty, wealth and status one craves and desires, only leads to a road of destruction where one walks upon darkness until one dies in a state that Allah is displeased with. For how many women are amazed with their wealth, status and beauty yet these things do not quench their thirst for happiness and contentment?

Section: The Muslim woman and knowledge

(Qur’an: Ash Shams 91:9)Allah has said: ‘The one who has succeeded has purified it (the self)’.
Narrated in Saheeh Muslim on the authority of Nu’maan Ibn Basheer The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: ‘Verily there is a morsel of flesh within the body, if it becomes good then the whole body will become good and if it becomes corrupt then it will become corrupt, verily it is the heart.’
It is narrated in Saheeh Al Bukhari on the authority of Abi Burdah that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: Three people have two blessings. A man from the people of the book who believes in his Prophet and believes in Muhammad صلى الله عليه و سلم, and a slave if he gives Allah and his master their rights, and a man who has a female slave, and taught her good manners and did his best in doing so, and taught her knowledge and did his best in teaching her, then frees her and marries her then he has two blessings.’
And it is narrated in Saheeh Al Bukhari the statement of ‘Aisha: How virtuous are the women of the Ansaar, shyness never prevented them from learning their religion.
And it is narrated in Saheeh Al Bukhari that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم gave a specific day for the women to seek knowledge.
This shows that the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم put great emphasis upon the education of Muslim women in the religion and has shown the immense reward of those who educate their wives and daughters and even their slave girls about the religion. The following sections will clarify to us as to why Islamic education for Muslim women is so important.

Section: The Muslim woman is a Shepherd.

(Qur’an At Tahreem 66:6): ‘Oh ye who believe save yourselves and your families from the fire…’.
The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: ‘Everyone is a shepherd and everyone of you will be questioned about his flock… and a woman is a shepherd over her husband’s house and she will be questioned about her flock’.
This shows that the Muslim woman in her own right is a leader and hence is responsible for those who are under her authority. And as a shepherd has knowledge of what is beneficial and what is harmful for his sheep, so to the Muslim woman must know what is either beneficial or harmful toward her household and this cannot be attained except through knowledge of the religion. If she doesn’t have any knowledge of Islam she would be unable to teach her children and command them toward doing what is correct and prohibit them from what is reprehensible.

Section: The Muslim woman commands the good and forbids the evil.

(Qur’an Ali Imraan 3:110): ‘You are the best of people taken out of mankind, you command the good and forbid the evil and believe in Allah’.
Narrated in Saheeh Muslim on the authority of Abi Sa’eed Al Khudri the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: ‘Whomsoever sees an evil then let him change it with his hands, if not let him change it with his tongues, if not let him change it with his heart and this is the weakest of Eeman’.
Narrated in Saheeh Muslim on the authority of Tameem Ad Daari the Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلمsaid: ‘The religion is advice (3 times)’. The Companions asked: ‘To whom O Messenger of Allah’. He said: ‘To Allah, the Messenger, the Muslim leaders and the rest of the Muslims’.
Advising, commanding the good and forbidding the evil is obligatory upon every Muslim male and female according to their capacity. Hence, she must command the good and forbid the evil with her husband, her children and fellow sisters. If she doesn’t do so she would be questioned for such on the day of reckoning.

Section: The Muslim woman knows her rights

(Qur’an Al Baqarah 2:228): ‘And for them (the women) are rights like that of the men, and the men have been raised above them with one level (in terms of responsibility over them’.
And as narrated in Bukhari’s Saheeh where Salmaan Al Farisee told Abu Darda: ‘Verily your Lord his rights upon you, and verily your body has rights upon you and verily you wife has rights upon you therefore give everyone their rights’.
Shaikh Al Allamah Muhammad Ibn Abdul Qadir Al Hilali said:
Verily Taqleed (blind following) is the worst of the diseases of the heart, for verily the sickness of the body prevents man from movement and action that brings one toward that which is beneficial, and taqleed is a disease of the heart that prevents him from reflection and research and evidences that brings one toward knowing the truth”.
Once a sister knows her rights as a daughter, a wife and a mother according to evidences from the Qur’an and the Sunnah she would neither fall short in giving the rights owed to others nor be abused in terms of her rights. She is not one who is a victim of mental enslavement which is imposed upon them by varying societies, her husband or her father. Rather, in Islam she has to freedom to express views, contemplate and reflect once they are within the bounds of the Qur’an, Sunnah and the consensus of the scholars.

Section: The obedience of a Muslim woman only extends to that which is lawful

The Prophet صلى الله عليه و سلم said: ‘There is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the creator’.
And he صلى الله عليه و سلم said: ‘Whomsoever pleases the people for the displeasure of Allah, Allah will leave him to the people’.
A Muslim woman therefore has the right to disobey her husband and even her parents if they order her to disobey the laws of Allah. And she must not seek to please her family or her husband for the displeasure of Allah. In this case Allah will leave her to those she has chosen to please (they will not have the specific protection of Allah that he gives to those who are close to him).

Section: Some of the women scholars of the past and present

Umm ‘Abdillaah ‘Aaishah Bint Abee Bakr As Siddiq (رصي الله عنهما). It is well known in the affair of hadeeth that if we look into the books of hadeeth terminology, you will find the different stances. And from that which they mention in the book of the Sahaabah or the ‘ilm of the Sahaabah (رصي الله عنهم), and the mentioning of the sciences that deal with the Sahaabah, it mentions Al Mukthiiroon ‘Alaan Nabiyyi.  They mention that the people who have the most narrations on the Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه و سلم), and from those who had the most narrations from the Mukthireen ‘Alaan Nabiyyi was ‘Aaishah
Faatimah Bint Al Mundhir (رضي الله عنها). This particular story should be an encouragement for the women. Her husband was Hishaam Ibn ‘Urwah (رصي الله عنهم) who was also a scholar of hadeeth and a narrator. If you look in the biography of Hishaam Ibn ‘Urwah you will find that from his teachers and from those whom he took knowledge from was actually his wife Faatimah Bint Al Mundhir. If you look into the biography of Hishaam, if you look at those whom he narrated from, those who were from his shuyook (shaykh pl.), you will find his wife, Faatimah Bint Al Mundhir
‘Amatul ‘Azeez Al Baghdaadiyyah Thumma Dimashqiyyah (رحمة الله  عليها) – Adh Dhahabee said about her, “Aalimatun Fadheelatun,” (she was a noble scholar), and she narrated much upon the nakeer…
Hadiyyah Bint ‘Alee Al Baghdaadiyyah (رحمة الله  عليها) – Imaam Adh Dhahabee said that she narrated very much, she was a very poor woman, and a woman of ‘ebaadah. She was read upon (meaning she gave lessons) from the book of Ad Daarimee (رحمه الله تعالى), from his musnad and a number of other books besides it.
The following are examples of women students of knowledge are currently alive.
The righteous Shaykhah Umm ‘Abdillaah ‘Aa’ishah Bint Muqbil Ibn Haadi, Al-Wadi’eeyah (Of Yemen): Shaikh Muqbil said about her: She is one who loves the Sunnah and calls to Allaah upon knowledge and understanding, and is a strong researcher who hates blind following and strives on understanding the proof and acting upon it.
Umm Salama As-Salafiyyah (Of Yemen): Shaikh Muqbil said about her: Umm Salama As-Salafiyyah (and she is a wife of Shaykh Muqbil): An excellent, ascetic caller to Allaah on firm knowledge, and she has excellent character.
Shaykhah Umm Ahmad Salwaa Subki (known as ustaadhah Salwaa) (Of Madinah). She has many tazkiyaat from the ‘ulamaa and a close relation with them – especially the mashaayikh in Riyaadh. She teaches Fathul Majeed fee sharh kitaabit tawheed, jaami’ul ‘uloomi wal hikam (explanation of 40 ahaadeeth an-Nawawiyyah) and al-’aqeedah al-waasitiyyah

Taken From http://musamills.wordpress.com/category/preparation-before-marriage/



 Abdul-Azeea bin 'Alee Al-Azjee informed me: ........... I came to Sufyaan bin Uyainah,so he said to me " Indeed it is only ignorance that has brought you here, not your desires for seeking knowledge. If your neighbors would limit themselves to just your knowledge, it would be sufficient for them. Then he gathered a pile of dirt and divided it in half with his finger, and said:"This is knowledge you have acquired half of it , now you are seeking after the other half. So if it were to be said to you: Have you used what you have acquired? If you answer were truthful and responded: NO, it would be said to you: What then is your need for that which will increase you in Burden upon Burden?! Use what you have acquired first"               [Taken From: Knowledge Mandates’ Action page: 75-76]

The question was asked during one of our Forty Hadeeth classes on May 20, 2005
Q: Is it permissible for us to read books and extract questions from the book to help with our comprehension?
A: from Shaikh Abu Abdir Rahmaan Yahyaa Ibn Ali Al-Hajooree “This is permissible as long as NO ONE IS TEACHING or Explaining all answers should be found in the book that is being read

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