Dear Islamic Sisters,
Please read this as it may be useful for all our dear Islamic
Sisters----I hope so,InshaAllah.
60 Islamic Ways To Keep Your Husband's Love Forever.
1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man
doesn’t want a man for his wife. 2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If
you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day. ...3.
Smell good! 4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon
as he walks in. Give him a little mental break. 5. Don’t keep asking
him, “what are you thinking?” 6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah
ta’ala gives you something really to complain about. 7. Absolutely no
talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under
the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve
legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right
person who can give advice in either: 1. Mediate any injustice done so
any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
2. Amicable divorce 8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you
would like your husband to be kind to your own mother. 9. Learn all
the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling
your obligations, not demanding your rights 10. Race to the door when
he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him. 11.
Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it. 12.
Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about
(looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem. 13. Tell
him he’s the best husband ever. 14. Call his family often. 15. Give
him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it.
This will encourage him to do more. 16. When he’s talking about
something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make
it seem like you’re interested. 17. Encourage him to do good deeds.
18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it,
inshaAllah. 19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and
shelter. It’s a big deal. 20. If he’s angry with you and starts
yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your
fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him
your side of the story and how you want him to change something. 21.
When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This
action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and
circumstance rather than at him. 22. Remember that your husband has
feelings, so take them into consideration. 23. Let him chill with his
friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him
to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home. 24. If your husband
is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then
stop doing it. Really. 25. Learn how to tell him what you expect
without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your
feelings. 26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it. 27.
Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read
some jokes, and then tell them to him. (lol) 28. Tell him you’re the
best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know
you’re good at. 29. Learn to make his favorite dish. 30. Don’t ever,
EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they
end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the
face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and
other people also think you have a bad husband. 31. Use your time
wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take
online classes and get active in your community. This will make you
happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband. 32. Do
all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in
everything you do. 33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate
with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of
each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions
like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah
Baqarah, 2:187] 34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times.
Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet used to ask her how
strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he
would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her
saying, “Jazakallah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as
I have rejoiced in you.” 35. Have a race with your husband and let him
win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him. 36. Keep fit
and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife,
cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy. 37.
Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or
talk too loud or walk like an elephant. 38. Do not leave the house
without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge. 39.
Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always
looking fresh and crisp. 40. Don’t discuss important/controversial
matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right
discussion. 41. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. 42.
Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home
the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work. 43. Make sure
you ALWAYS have something for dinner. 44. Brush your hair, everyday.
45. Don’t forget to do laundry. 46. Surprise him with gifts. Even
necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts. 47. Listen to him. (Even
when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or
computers.) 48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his
hobbies. 49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his
money. 50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with
him. 51. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in
intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.) 52. Prepare for special evenings
with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children
permitted). 53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face
is center of attraction. 54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to
him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until
matters become worse. 55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the
bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every
prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser
devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of
Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between
spouses where Allah installs it. 56. Don’t EVER compare your husbands
to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do
that, why do you …” (thats a killer!) 57. Be happy with what you have
because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you
enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa! 58. Strive
for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s
love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And
remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire
creation will love you. 59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to
take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet
poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for
him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car
steering-wheel 60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of
the night) and ask him to pray with you.
Jazakallah, dear Islamic Sisters for taking out some of your precious
time for reading this. Wish for the best with your spouse,Ameen.
Please do remember me in your dua's to Allah Almighty Alone Only.
Jazakallah Khaira once again.
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